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Susan Cain Quotes

I’m continually amazed by how many people who appear to be extroverts are actually introverts.

– Susan Cain

In a way, education by its nature favours the extrovert because you are taking kids and putting them into a big classroom, which is automatically going to be a high-stimulation environment. Probably the best way of teaching in general is one on one, but that’s not something everyone can afford.

– Susan Cain

Many introverts feel there’s something wrong with them, and try to pass as extroverts. But whenever you try to pass as something you’re not, you lose a part of yourself along the way. You especially lose a sense of how to spend your time.

– Susan Cain

A widely held, but rarely articulated, belief in our society is that the ideal self is bold, alpha, gregarious. Introversion is viewed somewhere between disappointment and pathology.

– Susan Cain

I get a lot of letters from introverts asking how they can meet people. The key is to make sure that you are doing things you enjoy.

– Susan Cain

Even when the attention focused on me is positive, I am uncomfortable being looked at by a lot of people – it’s just not my natural state of being.

– Susan Cain

Any time people come together in a meeting, we’re not necessarily getting the best ideas; we’re just getting the ideas of the best talkers.

– Susan Cain

Shyness is about the fear of social judgments – at a job interview or a party you might be excessively worried about what people think of you. Whereas an introvert might not feel any of those things at all, they simply have the preference to be in a quieter setting.

– Susan Cain

I’m insatiably curious about human nature. I feel very lucky that as a writer I get to learn so much about it just to do my job right.

– Susan Cain

Many people believe that introversion is about being antisocial, and that’s really a misperception. Because actually it’s just that introverts are differently social. So they would prefer to have a glass of wine with a close friend as opposed to going to a loud party full of strangers.

– Susan Cain

I’m not saying abolish group work – I think there’s a time and a place for people to come together and exchange ideas, but let’s restore the respect we once had for solitude. And we need to be much more mindful of the way we come together.

– Susan Cain

I prefer listening to talking, reading to socializing, and cozy chats to group settings.

– Susan Cain

We need to do teacher training to educate them about what temperament means. Shyness is painful and you want to help a child with shyness – but the underlying temperament of being a careful, sensitive person is to be honoured, valued and respected.

– Susan Cain

Shyness is inherently uncomfortable; introversion is not. The traits do overlap, though psychologists debate to what degree.

– Susan Cain

Opposites attract, and I think temperament is so fundamental that you end up craving someone of the opposite temperament to complete you.

– Susan Cain

Most people who have grown up introverted in this very extroverted culture of ours have had painful experiences of feeling like they are out of step with what’s expected of them. Parenting can pose unique challenges for introverted parents, who fear that their own painful experiences will be repeated in their children’s lives.

– Susan Cain

I’ve never given a speech without being terrified first.

– Susan Cain

I’m insatiably curious about human nature.

– Susan Cain

To some extent, we’ve always had an admiration for extroversion in our culture. But the extrovert ideal really came to play at the turn of the 20th century when we had the rise of big business.

– Susan Cain

Originally, technology was pretty clearly on the side of introversion. It allowed introverts to connect with people, to express their ideas in a less stimulating way: you’re sitting alone behind a computer. But I’m starting to think that the pressure to self-present constantly online is becoming so extreme.

– Susan Cain

What’s interesting is relative levels of introversion tend to stay the same. If you went back to your reunion from school, you would probably find that if you ranked everyone in your class into terms of levels of introversion and extroversion you’d still be the same rank.

– Susan Cain

I think the shyness one feels in childhood is often overcome with time. There are children who hide behind their parents’ legs, but you don’t see grown-ups hiding behind people. It just doesn’t happen. I mean, not that often. People develop social skills over time.

– Susan Cain

The bias against introversion leads to a colossal waste of talent, energy, and happiness.

– Susan Cain

Your tendency to be inward-directed or outward-directed is huge; it governs every part of the way you live and work and love.

– Susan Cain

Some introverts are perfectly comfortable with public speaking; I’m not one of them.

– Susan Cain

All personality traits have their good side and their bad side. But for a long time, we’ve seen introversion only through its negative side and extroversion mostly through its positive side.

– Susan Cain