Being all about me is not a good thing – I don’t care what 1978 tried to say – because as long as you mostly think about yourself, you’re not going to be a wonderful person. You’re just not. – Tracy McMillan
Without really trying to, I’ve become a sort of jailhouse lawyer of relationships – someone who’s had to do so much work on her own case that I can now help you with yours. – Tracy McMillan
Somehow, married or single, we’d rather anesthetize ourselves with love substitutes than go for the real thing, because let’s face it: The real thing is pretty scary. – Tracy McMillan
I’ve been standing at water coolers for the past thirty years talking to women about their love lives, and here’s what I’ve learned: Eventually, most women I know want to be partnered. – Tracy McMillan
Here’s the thing: you’re not really ready for love until you have enough self-respect that if you met your exact self, but in a guy, you would totally, completely, absolutely want to be with him. – Tracy McMillan
A sure-fire way to know you’re crazy is if more than one person has told you you’d be great on a reality show – and you agree with them. – Tracy McMillan
Is our desire for partnership just an evolutionary remainder, a Togetherness Delusion, where millions of women only think they need a relationship to be truly happy? Maybe. But you know what? That’s fine with me. – Tracy McMillan
Though it’s safe to say there are a whole lotta American gals who agree with the core ideals of feminism, they are somehow nevertheless watching ‘Say Yes to the Dress’ by the millions. – Tracy McMillan
Women with low self-esteem love bad boys. Women who have work to do love bad boys. Women who love themselves love good men. – Tracy McMillan
There is no such thing as ‘getting’ a guy, house and kids. There is only surrendering to them. – Tracy McMillan
Sometime between when the Summer of Love ended and the Summer of Sam began, America became a nation of cynics about love. – Tracy McMillan
Rather than diminishing the idea of ‘truly needing’ a relationship – and trying to deny it, shame it, or talk ourselves out of it – why not just celebrate it? It’s exactly what the world needs. – Tracy McMillan
When relationships don’t work out, it doesn’t mean you’re a bad person, it just means you weren’t meant to be together. – Tracy McMillan
I feel that as long as you’re honest, you have the opportunity to grow. It’s when you shut down, go into denial, and try to start hiding things from yourself and others, that’s when you lock in certain behaviors and attitudes that keep you stuck. – Tracy McMillan
For every year past the age of 27, you need to take another step toward commitment somewhere in your life. Instead of freelancing, you get a staff job. Instead of renting, you buy. Fine, instead of couch-surfing, you rent. – Tracy McMillan
All of us, consciously or unconsciously, set out to have the best possible love life. Valentine’s Day simply shines a light on the degree to which that didn’t – or hasn’t yet – materialized. – Tracy McMillan
Being in a relationship is a hard, painful slog at least once a week, maybe more often – especially if you have a lot of defenses to let down, or if your parents didn’t know how to love you very well. – Tracy McMillan
I’m a blunt person, not mean-spirited. I come from a place of love, but I’m interested in being real. – Tracy McMillan
I think of masculine and feminine energy like two sides to a battery. There’s a plus side and a minus side, and in order to make something turn on, you need to have opposites touching. It’s the same in relationships. – Tracy McMillan
